Two things that we stress our shit over – food and money.
We love it
We hate it
We sneak it
We share it
We over consume it
We under consume it
It brings us joy while simultaneously stripping us of our sanity.
We allow food and money to take leverage over us – we create dysfunctional relationships with them based on beliefs we have – these beliefs are almost always rooted in scarcity, which then establishes unhealthy attachment to the money and food we currently have.
Too much of either spins us into a fury of madness, too little of either wreaks havoc on our survival instincts causing emotional chaos.
Allowing money and food to be the drivers for our happiness and well-being creates unease and uncertainty in the body – when we rely on food and money for our happiness and well-being – it’s inevitable we will hit emotional barriers and blocks when we are striving or starved from either.
Let’s talk food.
It is – without a doubt, the world’s most acceptable drug – we hoard, abuse and restrict it when we are feeling unease within the body. This unease is emotionally overbearing and the overwhelm causes us to fixate on the one thing we know will create a bio-physical change instantaneously – food.
We rest assure, as soon as we binge on that triple layer chocolate late, we are destined to feel different, momentarily liberated from the hold of the anxiety.
And we are right for a split second.
Until we are riddled with shame and guilt wondering what perpetuated those behaviours.
Reality therapy is not dead. We throw money away to a) feel better about ourselves or b) as a reminder we don’t deserve to have it. Both examples of our negative emotional attachment to money.
In conversation, we notice our heart beats a little faster, our mind races, a flash of our bank balance is present and all of a sudden we are in a completely altered state. Without moving an inch we, though our minds have the ability to create this panic from within.
From my experience, the most common thread there is the theme of ‘fear of future deprivation’ we fear there won’t be ‘enough’ in the future, therefore, overconsumption in the present is the default. Fear of future deprivation is rooted in the mentality of lack. The deep rooted fear your basic needs won’t be met.
These beliefs (which to our credit, are inmate within us – hello feast and famine) create emotions and feelings within us, these emotions and feelings are then acted out in our behaviours, these behaviours are based on survival, which today – is not useful, nor indicative of what is actually happening in our world.
Adapting an abundance mindset with food and money will allow you to quiet the scarcity trigger which will propel us into overusing and abusing money and food.
You have enough
You are enough
There will always be enough.