Shame Eats Us Alive, Literally.

Shame eats us alive…

Literally.

It's one of those dreaded feelings in the body that we suppress and distract ourselves from.

Shame feels heavy – it feels like a rock on the heart and a tennis ball in the throat.

Who feels me? In fact, I'm sure as your reading this you're feeling these sensations.

DON'T fight it, this is good – feeling shame is the gateway to releasing it from the body.

I'm sure your brain is flooded with scenarios and things you feel shame about, right in this very instant – amiiiright?

When shame is spoken about openly – or when we bring it to the surface it loses its charge.

Shame can no longer manifest when we bring it up and talk through it. It's a magical clearing we all have access to.

It takes courage and patience. When we consciously bring up the ‘shadow' parts of us, the parts we want to hide, it feels uncomfortable, which is why we never do it.

There is no such thing as a ‘bad' emotion. Everything is true to you, therefore, each feeling is valid and perfect. Sit with it, sit with your shame. Say it out loud, write it out or meditate on it. Whatever outlet feels right for you, go with that.

I love writing it out, it releases it from my body. When I no longer suppress these feelings I feel light, I feel awake and I feel cleansed.

Shame is HUGE when it comes to body image and food.

‘I am shameful I ate all those cookies'
‘I am shameful I gained 3 pounds'
‘I am shameful I didn't go to the gym today'
‘I am shameful I binged on sweets all night last night'
‘I am shameful I am so fat'

Listen to your shame, some things that may come up will be years old, that fine, honour it accordingly.

Don't discount the fact you are feeling these feelings. They are there for a reason. Bring awareness to them. Whatever modality feels right for you – do it. Write, talk, or mediate it out. Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness, it takes massive strength.

You'll feel an enormous amount of weight lifted – a lightness in your body.

Create space for lightness, ease, and flow…

You've got this.

26 Comments

  • Sally Winds
    Posted at 5:15 am, Reply

    Really strong message at the same time it empowers me to listen to my shame and honour it. I felt really light after saying something I am shameful of.

  • Kaye
    Posted at 3:54 am, Reply

    This is so true “Shame can no longer manifest when we bring it up and talk through it.” Once you have talked about it, it doesn’t have any hold on you anymore. πŸ™‚

  • Brenda Jones
    Posted at 3:43 am, Reply

    Ladies have you tried saying out loud your shame? πŸ™‚ I tried it after reading this blog and really I felt light after.

  • Linda A
    Posted at 4:18 am, Reply

    Like what Sam said “don’t fight shame, feeling shame is the gateway to releasing it from the body.” This really helps me release my emotional weight.

  • Gina
    Posted at 4:06 am, Reply

    Don’t keep those shame inside, even if it is just as simple as I am shameful of eating that 3 slices of red velvet cake, you should release it and say it out loud. If not it will just add up and become a really heavy emotional weight.

  • Jessie M
    Posted at 3:48 am, Reply

    Release that shame! put shame into shame! haha πŸ˜€

  • Shane
    Posted at 3:39 am, Reply

    When I was saying my shame out loud I notice some was from years before and I didn’t know I was still shameful of it. πŸ™

  • Cyndi
    Posted at 3:22 am, Reply

    Every emotion counts that is why there is no bad emotion. πŸ™‚ Just like the movie “Inside Out” every emotion must be present and work with each other.

  • Joan
    Posted at 2:27 am, Reply

    Don’t let shame have power over you. You can remove the power of shame by saying it or writing your shame.

  • Bethy
    Posted at 2:43 am, Reply

    You know what would be fun? Let’s write our SHAME here in the comment box! πŸ˜€ I will go first, I am shameful I ate half of the pizza my brother ordered.

  • Heart
    Posted at 5:15 am, Reply

    I am shameful I didn’t jog today. πŸ™

  • Janet
    Posted at 4:04 am, Reply

    Shameful I gained 5 pounds.

  • Arianna
    Posted at 7:01 am, Reply

    I am shameful of my flabby arms. πŸ˜€ but not anymore! haha

  • Melody
    Posted at 3:34 am, Reply

    Shameful that I could not button my pants anymore. but still staying positive that I could use my old pants again. πŸ™‚

  • KRISTINA
    Posted at 3:07 am, Reply

    Shame is the one thing that I know I can control, still, it continues to hurt me. This was such a wonderful read. Made realize things I never thought I could. Thank you, Sam. πŸ˜€

  • ANDY
    Posted at 2:19 am, Reply

    Shameful that I ate a giant piece of cake! πŸ˜€

  • CARA
    Posted at 3:13 pm, Reply

    Shame can no longer manifest when we bring it up and talk through it. – Faced the mirror today and I shouted (with convictions) the shameful things I’ve done. That felt really good.

  • MADISON
    Posted at 1:52 pm, Reply

    “Shame can no longer manifest when we bring it up and talk through it. It’s a magical clearing we all have access to.” – This is true. I have experienced this myself. Before, I used to hide all the things that I am afraid of and ashamed of. However, after I released all of it by talking about it and accepting it, I felt so good because it was totally freeing. I even shared it with my friends.

  • MIA
    Posted at 6:18 pm, Reply

    “When shame is spoken about openly – or when we bring it to the surface it loses its charge.” – Wonderfully said. Every time my friends and I talk about our shameful experiences and all the things that we are ashamed of of our bodies, we feel lighter and makes us even more closer as friends.

  • ESSE
    Posted at 8:13 pm, Reply

    When I learned to accept the most shameful parts of myself, I am able to accept it more, which made me love it even more. I was able to provide the best service to myself and to others. πŸ™‚

  • ALANNA
    Posted at 3:32 am, Reply

    When we fully accept ourselves, there are no shameful experiences that we had experienced that we will be afraid that it might come out or discovered.

  • BECKY
    Posted at 11:24 pm, Reply

    The road to happiness certainly starts with acceptance. I should accept all my imperfections and that includes all the embarrassing events that had happened in my life.

  • BELLE
    Posted at 10:56 pm, Reply

    The shameful moments in our lives should hone us to become stronger and it should not hinder us from becoming what we really want to become. It should always be a part of a learning experience.

  • LILY ANNE
    Posted at 10:43 pm, Reply

    “Don’t discount the fact you are feeling these feelings. They are there for a reason.” – Accepting my feelings of shame and fear will definitely make me love myself more.

  • LINA
    Posted at 11:16 pm, Reply

    Accept all your imperfections and flaws and that will surely give you a different perception in life. πŸ™‚

  • MILLIE
    Posted at 10:43 pm, Reply

    When you accept all your flaws and love yourself despite that, you’re on the right track.

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