How Your Diet Is Keeping You Fat

Dieting is a great idea until you’re 15 years down the line, 50 diets deep and 30 pounds heavier.

Dieting is a good idea until the shame of failing is percolating through your pours.

Dieting is a good idea until you turn into a head case, ignoring people around you and sitting on your hands to not devour the plate of brownies.

Dieting is a good idea until you realize that you’re ruining your life, saying no to social engagements while you sit at home sipping water and wondering how many calories you’ve consumed that day.

Dieting is a good idea until you wake up and realize that it’s not the physical weight that is the problem, it’s the emotional weight.

You’re dieting because you hate your body – let’s just make this clear. You can look in the mirror and convince yourself all you want that it’s for ‘health’ reasons but when you’re starving yourself and jumping on and off the scale multiple times a day, you’re not kidding anyone, especially yourself.

You’ve got to be willing to risk getting fat in order to release physical weight. 

Hear me out on this one for a hot minute…

You don’t want to get off a diet because you’re terrified you’re going to ‘lose control’ and gain 300 pounds, you don’t want to get off the diet because you don’t trust yourself, you don’t want to get off the diet because the thought of gaining weight is equivalent to death in your eyes.

You’ve got to get over yourself to get over the struggle.

Throw it in the towel on the fear – if you want to lose the emotional weight (which then will allow you to release the physical weight) you’ve got to be OK with gaining weight.

The fear of gaining weight will leave you feeling stuck and defeated – yoyo-ing back and forth and never reaching the inner happiness you’re actually searching for. You don’t want to be skinny, you want to feel what you think being skinny will bring you.

If you’re searching for a feeling on weight loss, you’re doing it all wrong. You need to feel the feeling first and move through it.

I believe in lightness – all the power to you if you want to experience lightness in your body – good on you. However, the journey of getting there is what makes all the difference – are you running away from your body, taking action in fear and masking the core issue? If so, you will remain overweight and overwhelmed.

Only when we dig into the core issue, what is causing the problem will we be able to experience lightness emotionally and physically.

Dieting will keep you in the cycle of being overweight and overwhelmed – stop being the victim, you’re better than that.

17 Comments

  • Donnita
    Posted at 7:12 am, Reply

    OMG! SOOO true! I really need to face my emotional weight before I could get rid of my physical weight.

  • Gina
    Posted at 7:33 am, Reply

    Wow, I was really mind blown by this. I didn’t know I was not trusting my body when I was dieting.

  • Red
    Posted at 4:21 am, Reply

    Releasing the emotional weight will be the key to release the physical weight. 🙂

  • Jean
    Posted at 2:48 am, Reply

    “Throw it in the towel on the fear – if you want to lose the emotional weight (which then will allow you to release the physical weight) you’ve got to be OK with gaining weight.” I really believe in this. Thank you Sam!

  • BARBARA
    Posted at 5:07 am, Reply

    “You need to feel the feeling first and move through it.” Such an eye-opener. Nobody has ever written it, the same way you did, Sam.

  • RACHEL
    Posted at 2:55 am, Reply

    I have never seen a blog that explained “self acceptance” the way this did. Awesome read!

  • EVA
    Posted at 1:54 am, Reply

    We need to be aligned with our own self before we could be in touch with anybody else. It’s such an awesome experience reading this blog. 🙂

  • ROBIN
    Posted at 4:15 am, Reply

    “The fear of gaining weight will leave you feeling stuck and defeated” – I am basing this from my experience and this is definitely true. I will make sure to let go of my emotional baggage for me to be able to be free and think more of what my body really needs.

  • TRINA
    Posted at 6:04 pm, Reply

    “Only when we dig into the core issue, what is causing the problem will we be able to experience lightness emotionally and physically.” – We need to look into ourselves to see what the real problem is and take it from there. If we’re able to do that, we will be able to figure out a way to look into ourselves and know what our body needs. 🙂

  • I love this concept. It’s one that took me YEARS to figure out, and I’m still working on it. Thanks for sharing and spreading the wisdom Sam <3

  • KAI
    Posted at 8:04 pm, Reply

    “If you’re searching for a feeling on weight loss, you’re doing it all wrong. You need to feel the feeling first and move through it.” – This totally makes sense. The feeling that we have towards ourselves will determine the outcome that we want to happen about our lives.

  • LILY
    Posted at 3:16 am, Reply

    We should always be in control of our self for s to be fearless and accept the situations that will be coming our way.

  • PENELOPE
    Posted at 11:00 pm, Reply

    “You’ve got to get over yourself to get over the struggle.” – This struck me big time! I should get over my own flaws and weaknesses so that I could fully accept the real me.

  • KEIRA
    Posted at 10:48 pm, Reply

    I have been struggling about this issue for quite some time and reading this article, shed a light on me. Thank you, Sam 🙂

  • AMELIA
    Posted at 10:18 pm, Reply

    You need to trust yourself with your own decisions. 🙂

  • BONNIE
    Posted at 11:07 pm, Reply

    Self trust and acceptance should go hand in hand. 🙂

  • CARMI
    Posted at 10:31 pm, Reply

    Sometimes we tend to cover up our emotions with food, which is making us unhealthy. It defeats the purpose of loving ourselves, We need to settle all our emotional problems so that we won’t deal with it with food. 🙂

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