Perfectionism is something that so many of us struggle with, especially when we’re chasing our dreams. It’s when you refuse to accept anything less than perfection, and you think in a very all or nothing way. It’s also the quickest way to zap all the joy and pleasure from your life, which is why it’s so dang important to overcome it.
It’s easy to fool ourselves into believing that perfectionism is the road to success, but the truth is that it’s just a way to keep us small and hiding from the world and who we are meant to be. Perfectionism is usually tied to a need for worth, significance, or external approval, which are wants based in the mind. It’s time to tap into your soul, honor yourself, and do what feels good. Here’s how to overcome perfectionism:
- Stop being a control freak. Instead of desperately clinging to control, ask yourself, “What is the very worst that could happen if I let go of control in this area of my life?” Then get curious and live in that space.
- Love what is. You can’t have what you want until you accept what is. So right now, in this moment, love what is while still honoring what you’d like to be.
- How do you want to feel? Feel into the things you want – literally. Allow yourself to viscerally feel what it would be like to have, be, or experience certain things. Your brain actually can’t tell the difference between something you experience or something you just vividly visualize!
- Know your intentions. Are your desires and goals based in love or fear?
Overcoming perfectionism takes time and commitment, but I promise it is so worth it. It leads to a type of freedom and self-love that may seem like a dream (ha – see what I did there?!).