“There’s no way I’m going to that party, I’m not ready to wear a skin tight dress – people are going to think I’m so fat and disgusting”
Is your weight still dictating your life?
Giiiirrrllll… you are not alone. TRUST ME. I hear this all the time from my clients. They turn down dinner plans, only go on vacation to places where you don’t have to wear a bikini or show up late to dinner so people don’t question them about their eating habits. I’ve heard it all, every little plan to excuse them from social gatherings which make them feel vulnerable.
What is it costing you to live in this space? More importantly what is it going to take for you to take action on your life and start living the life of your dreams?
“I was totally out of control with that chocolate cake, I had to eat it all”
“I seriously have no control around food, it’s there and I just can’t stop myself”
“I hate getting mad because I feel so out of control.”
Sounds like something you’ve said before?
Control is a common theme of emotional eating. What are you trying desperately to control? Because when we look into it, the very thing we are trying to control, is actually controlling us.
Often, controlling food is a response to feelings of powerlessness in other areas of your life. It's easier to focus on your intake of food or your weight than to deal with an unpredictable situation, a failing relationship or a fight with a friend. When we feel vulnerable, we feel the need to be in control.
Tune into what is making you feel vulnerable, let’s start there.
Unhealthy relationships with food come down to a sense of feeling empty in other areas of your life. What are you wanting more of? More love? More attention? More fun?
Let’s figure this out, grab a notepad (seriously do it, writing it down is so powerful!)
In what situations do you feel the most vulnerable? How does food play into this?
Who is (or was) the most controlling person in your life?
In what areas of your life do you consider yourself to be powerless?
What are you afraid will happen if you lose control of your emotions?
What frightens you most about being vulnerable?
What do you want more of in your life? Fun? Adventure?
What activities provide you those feelings?
So often we harbour these deep questions, they are hard – they might make you shed a tear, bring up some suppressed emotion or make you angry. That’s totally cool. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. So often we push away these feelings, which isn’t healthy. What you resist, persists. Feel it completely then let it go.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, share your comments in the box below 🙂
Have a beautiful week – let’s stay hungry for happiness.
Samantha Skelly